Don’t Wait For Your Children To Grow Up To Take Care Of You – Be Parents

It is not uncommon for a mother to sacrifice her worries and self-care to accommodate or cope with the upbringing of her children.

Thus, either by cultural tradition or because we do not know of other alternatives,  we end up putting aside our worries and our personal development when our children are the most physically dependent  on us.

Nonetheless, taking care of yourself and taking the time to disconnect is one of the best examples we can give to our children.

If we put things in their place ourselves, we educate with example and not just with words. In this way,  our children will integrate love and personal care as something normal  that does not generate conflicts and additional burdens.

Likewise, by behaving in this way we will avoid becoming emotionally dependent on our children and creating  dependencies in them. They will thus learn to give and to receive in the same measure, vis-à-vis others but also in relation to themselves.

By taking care of yourself, you take care of your children

If you wait until your children are older to take care of you, you will deprive them of a great learning: that of loving themselves. Our children must understand that the value and importance of self-esteem is indispensable in a person.

In other words, we have to heal that part of us that tells us every day that we are less of a woman if we don’t sacrifice ourselves for our family. So  a mother heals herself as a woman when she begins to stop paying attention to the victim role that society imposes on her.

Being a woman doesn’t mean resisting, pushing past your emotional limits, or carrying all the loads on your back. Therefore, a healed mother as a woman recognizes her worth in the world as an individual being in need.

Ultimately, a mother who takes care of herself by paying attention and protecting her time and the maintenance of her inner and outer being,  will raise  her children with a better disposition to take care of themselves, to work on their aspirations and to achieve a balance.

Self-care is good for children

As we have said,  it is essential that mothers take care of themselves on a daily basis and do not neglect themselves. This is too often forgotten or relegated but it is important to ensure the best education for our children. Let’s take a look at some tips or key elements to take care of yourself every day:

Make time for yourself every day

Organize a time each day to breathe, to research your feelings, to heal your wounds, to calm yourself, etc. Spend a few minutes in your bed, in your living room or on your patio thinking about yourself and how you felt during the day’s events. It will help you pull yourself together and  deal with your emotions  in the right way.

This results in a direct benefit for your children, since not only will you be more consistent when educating them and they will also see in you a way to illustrate the principle of self-management: to spend time understanding yourself.

Choose times of the week and month to pamper yourself

Likewise, choose one or more  times during the week  to play sports, read, hang out with friends, or do what you enjoy most. In other words, organize your time in such a way that you allow yourself to do things that you don’t normally do or tend to relegate more frequently.

Also, work to have a positive time outside that will allow you to relax and cultivate yourself. It will be a moment for you, just to have fun and get to know each other. By giving ourselves our own freedom, we will feel full, alive and happy.

Strengthen your self-esteem

Most of the time we hang our self esteem  on a paper boat and let it drift on the sea of ​​our lives. Of course, our boat gets wet and sinks, sinking our love for ourselves.

• Take out the basket of emotions from your life. Anything that you have been told or done that is not very constructive is insignificant. You want to build, not destroy.

• Apply the same to negative thoughts you have about yourself and those around you. You can write them down or break them, it’s a good method to break free.
• Write down a list of all the positive things you have in your life  and read it again when you need to.
• Make a list of everything you love to do  and everything you would like to explore and put it into practice.

Remember that the best way to ensure  the education  and development of our children is always to set an example for them. Let us not forget that what is good for us will be good for our children in the short and long term.

The principle is simple: we function better when we feel good.