Temper Tantrums: Their Positive Side? – Being Parents

Temper tantrums happen because children are unable to express  in words how they are feeling emotionally. When they have feelings that are intense and difficult to control, they burst into anger. The tantrums are not for you to get angry or scold him, far from it. They are there to pay attention to the child and teach him, not only to listen and learn from his emotions, but also to put words into what is happening to him.

The  whims  and tantrums of young children are one of the most demanding aspects of raising children. Parents think that everything is fine when the children smile or are quiet… And they feel helpless when they roll around on the floor screaming and kicking for something that seemed to be unimportant.

However, children’s temper tantrums are an essential component of their emotional development and also of their physical well-being. Temper tantrums have a pleasant side and are more positive than you might think. Maybe if you think about it the next time your son or daughter goes into a temper tantrum, you will start to perceive these moments not as something bad but rather as an opportunity for learning  and improvement. both.

The bright side of temper tantrums

They help to learn

Children express their frustration in any situation (even the mildest) with temper tantrums. It helps them to clear their minds so that they can learn something new. Learning is as natural to children as breathing.

When a child is unable to concentrate or listen, there is usually an emotional problem blocking progress. To learn, a child must feel happy and relaxed, and for that, expressing his emotions is fundamental.

Stress is released

The  tears  contain cortisol, the stress hormone. When we cry, we literally release stress from the body. Tears also help lower blood pressure and improve emotional well-being, as long as a loved one is present to offer full support. When a child is on the verge of a tantrum, they start to feel upset, get angry, frustrated and cry.

In addition, once the storm has passed, the child also feels much better. Parents need to help their children deal with anger and find out what are the dominant feelings and their cause. Thus, solutions can be sought together so that the next time a similar situation arises, the little one can learn certain skills to cope with this frustration. Crying helps heal.

If you said ‘no’ it’s positive

Sometimes temper tantrums arise because your child is facing a ‘no’ and that is positive for their development. Saying ‘no’ to children is one way of setting clear limits on what is acceptable and what is not acceptable.

There is no better defense against anger than a good fit.

-Unknown author-

Sometimes you avoid giving a refusal so as not to deal with the emotional consequences, yet  it is necessary to set limits and at the same time offer love and empathy. Saying ‘no’ when it is appropriate is positive for everyone.

Your child feels safe to tell you how he feels

In his own way, he tells you that he is not doing well and that he needs your help to get better. That’s what temper tantrums are for. It is a compliment because your child trusts you. A tantrum doesn’t mean he wants to manipulate you or get what he wants …

He’s just telling you how he feels about a particular situation. It is the love that binds you that should help you cope with the situation in the most effective way.